A Note I Liked on FB

The Note
by David Thomas on Friday, July 29, 2011 at 12:47am.

I don't believe that God intended for the modern woman to be as strong as she is today.

Contrary to the wording or how you may have interpreted the post, this doesn't mean that God intended for women to be weak.

What I did mean to explain is that women have been forced to assume roles and take on responsibilities that God never intended for them to fill and put on strength that they should have never had to muster.

The single mother has to juggle the roles of mother and father because dad couldn't bother.

The rape victim has to cope with trust and self esteem issues that without the help of God, may never go away.

The single Woman of God who's mind is not only on marriage but on her supposed "biological clock" now considers "settling" just because she feels there aren't enough REAL Men of God around; much less men who are willing to pastor her household.

The first time expectant mother who for lack of support from her baby daddy and/or own low self esteem issues sees abortion as the only option.(By the way, the enactment of state laws that require father notification or consent before an abortion takes place has been ruled as unconstitutional.)

The daughter who was raised to be "independent." And by independent I mean gets her education, career and house and proudly proclaims that "She doesn't need a man for anything!" Meanwhile, a good man who may or may not make as much money as her, who's also not intimidated but supportive of her success never gets the chance to get close because of her fears of being labeled as "weak." You see, while she was building the walls of her empire she was also building a wall around her heart; vowing not to get hurt or trampled on like momma was. She's not used to a man loving her for who she is. So she doesn't know how to appreciate it when it does happen. My sister in the Lord, Sis Claudelle Scott Bailey testified that "we(women) had to be strong for so long that we sometimes overstep our boundaries."

I can list more examples, but I guess you get the point.

Too many times women are making decisions, shouldering burdens and filling shoes that God originally intended for a Man to wear. I don't suggest at all that women shouldn't be cautious when opening up to a potential mate. Im also not implying that a woman is incomplete without one. However ladies, know that if you do wish to be happily married one day, that the best way to judge a mans character is by what measuring it with God says a husband is supposed to be. And be careful not to push them away!

REAL men seem to be endangered species, because society told us that showing vulnerability means showing weakness! That's why it's so difficult for a man to admit love much less properly show it.

The few of us that actually do go to church constantly struggle with the simple act of lifting our hands in worship, because we were raised to believe that real men don't surrender to anyone! It's pretty difficult to worship God in Spirit and in Truth when you're whole persona is based on lies.

Ephesians 5 vs 22-23:

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

vs 25:

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

Breaking the generational curse that still affects our government, churches and our homes is mandatory! And it needs to start with FAMILY! Love is a verb. Man's responsibility is to love our wives to the point where if necessary we would give our lives for them. Let our daughters know that they are queens whether they get married or not. They can be successful and still be open for courtship. Inform our daughters that the only man that can claim he's "God's gift to women", died on a cross and proved it! And unless "homeboy" can submit himself to that, then you shouldn't submit yourself to him! We need to teach our daughters that humility and submission are not signs of weakness. They are characteristics of a Virtuous Woman. They are NOT synonymous with he says "jump" you say "how high?" Or better yet, he says "What kind of things do you like?" and she says "Whatever it is you like!" LOL.

Let our future kings know that's its okay to shed tears and express themselves. This will create a pathway to their heart that isn't blocked by foolish pride or societal constraints. This pathway makes it easier for their future wife to navigate and clearer for God to enter.

Real men do exist! And real women appreciate them!

Okay, I think im finished for now. There's a lot more to say but maybe another time. Feel free to respectfully add your 2 cents. God bless you all.

This note was written under the influence of the Holy Spirit, from 30 years experience of being a black man, through friendly and inspring conversations with some of you and with love.